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Post by patricia on Jul 9, 2018 7:07:37 GMT
Hello there,
I love my baby boy so much and I don't regret having him. I would protect him with my life but right now I'm on the edge of losing my strength. I'm a single mother and I do get a lot of support from friends and family but it is very energy-sapping. My mother told me I could live with them but I'm not sure if I want this as I want to raise my baby and not my mother to do it.
Sometimes my best friend is coming over and watching my baby so I can sleep for a few minutes but during the nights I feel very lonely and scared.
Did anybody here make similar experiences?
How did you deal with these situations?
Patricia
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carol
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Post by carol on Jul 9, 2018 7:25:19 GMT
Hi Patricia,
first of all congratulations to being a mother! Being a single mother is not funny at all. It is very straining. However you were writing about your support system that seems to be pretty good. Maybe you need a better organization of your system. I understand why you want to avoid moving in with your mother but you should overthink it once again. Maybe also sit together with your mother and talk through different situations. Maybe you can also stay with your mother for a few days per week and see how everything works out. As a single mother you need every help from family and friends you can get so your baby and also you are having a good time. As a single mother you need to learn to accept help. Otherwise you will have no energy left.
All the best Carol
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Post by patricia on Jul 9, 2018 7:27:38 GMT
Hi Carol,
you are right, actually I really need help although sometimes I won't admit it. Might be a good idea to just start with a view days/nights per week at my mom's. Anyways talking about how we both imagine everything to be once I do "move" in is important - you are so right!
Right now I would love to call her but I'm also scared and I don't want to admit that I'm weak....
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Post by carol on Jul 9, 2018 7:33:52 GMT
Hey Patricia,
you are not weak when you call out for help! I think this actually demand a lot of strength. You are a single mother and it is okay to get help! So please do it! You want to have a great childhood for your child and also for you seeing your baby grow. Even though I was not a single mother and my hubby and I were helping each other out a lot we were so happy that we had both our mothers around who loved to help us out. It was so beautiful also to see our daughter playing with her grandparents and we got some spare time and could recharge. My hubby and I also shared all the tasks and took turns. For example during the nights we did give myorganicformula.com/collections/holle to our baby. This was very nice for me so one turn I got up the other one my hubby and on the weekends also my mother. This was also nice so we could go out without having to worry after a few months as it is also very important to have some grown up time for yourself. If you can afford it you can also get a nanny or maybe an Au-pair. Take every help you can get  Don't worry you can get back to everyone later once your baby is grown up! You are a strong woman also when you get help, don't forget about that! Carol
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Post by patricia on Jul 9, 2018 7:36:33 GMT
Thank you Carol for your assuring words - I try to be able to take the help I get. It is not about me, you are so right!
I'm going to write down my thoughts right now, this always helps me a lot to get things sorted out!
Yours,
Patricia
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Don't worry you can get back to everyone later once your baby is grown up!